Lately marriage seems to be the main discussion. and people around me keep talking the same too. i asked several married couples with regard to this matter , how s life gonna be after married and other problem that may arise in the marital relationship. discussion passed by and i acquired a lot. so i can conclude here, do concern with the financial stability due to the fact that it would become the main problem short after the marriage. other reason is tht not to simply rely on the myth of ' happily-ever-after' marriage as a result of ' love-you-forever' , in fact, analyze other factors that may become issues between you and your spouse.
i keep posting on my wall about marriage doesnt mean that i wanted to boast like ' I WANT TO GET MARRIED' or ' I ALREADY HAVE A BOYFRIEND' or anything else tht would appear in ur LITTLE MIND. NO! that was not my main purpose of doing that. i just need a GREAT MIND to capture my intention and give me advice that i might need in future. that's it!and Alhamdullilah i got positive comments among my friends. and thank you very much to them!
now i want to analyze their comments as it could help me to be more realistic in defining what marriage is all about. some said that the money is the only reason for me not to get married. alright let me briefly say something about me.
i am 25 years old. graduated in April 2009. After graduated , i hve work for 6 months with Jabatan Bekalan Air Negeri Kedah. i quit my job because i want to get a master degree. i am very ambitious and believe that education promise you a better life as well as good ummah. (Islam also encourage us to acquire knowledge too) . now i am study , struggling to get my master degree , and in a meantime i am working with Celcom. i pay for my school. i am a full time student and i work as a full time employee just like anyone else. And i am very independent and not my mummy's little baby. so, now i can adjudge that my financial is not that really good to get married. am i right? so the money as the main reason is acceptable in my case. As far as the marriage is concern is the ability to support the family. as it is important to ensure the family welfare. so can we simply claim that money is a lame excused not to get married?
BUT (see there is a but there, not butt eh) SOMEHOW, i keep pondering, wondering and many 'ing' lagi ...such excuses are not gonna break a tie that we r going to build for the sake of Allah..i believe tht! and i will always believe that! if money is the main problem, i can say that Allah wants me to put more effort on how to overcome the problem. and if i failed to do so, means that i failed the test that Allah has planned for me.
You shall encourage those of you who are single to get married. They may marry the righteous among your male and female servants, if they are poor. GOD will enrich them from His grace. GOD is Bounteous, Knower. (24:32)
In this ayah , we can see that Islam encourages marriage in order to discourage immorality. Islam considered marriage as essential and vital part of Muslim's life. as it can prevent man and woman to commit adultery and the downfall of the ummah. look at the last ayah " if they are poor, God will enrich them with His grace". And Allah continued says :
As i said earlier, Allah will help us if our intention is good. and i believe tht Allah will help me as long as my intention is for the sake of ibadah. my friend also advice me this. and i noe that there will be wisdom behind it. so, i cant say or simply put several obstacles that hinder me from marry someone i love. and i truly believe that Allah will show me the way as long as i hold on to the faith. IF YOU CANT TRUST OTHERS! TRUST ALLAH, THE ONLY CREATOR! insyaAllah, He will help us.
INSYAALLAH.
so how people? is it easier said than done? make a hundred list what to do or not to do, what are the thing that might be a probability in the future do not help me much. due to it is not happen in my face. so, as i analyze all the comments. i still found tht there is no end to my case. hmmmm
ALLAH KNOWS WHAT IS BEST FOR ME.
love,
Waniey
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